Tetap setia

Mungkin kisah yang terjadi di kota Amman, Jordania, tergolong langka, unik sekaligus mengundang geli. Seorang pria Jordania yang bernama Bakr Melhem merasa kesepian karena hidup terpisah dengan istrinya yang berada di luar kota. Pria ini iseng-iseng “berselingkuh” dengan wanita lain dalam dunia maya melalui chatroom (ruang ngobrol) di internet. Setelah tiga bulan saling chatting, mereka benar-benar merasa cocok dan saling jatuh cinta. Bahkan sepasang kekasih di dunia maya ini berniat menikah. Mereka lantas membuat janji untuk bertemu di sebuah tempat. Namun saat mereka berdua bertemu, mereka terkejut dan terkesima. Bukannya apa-apa, tapi ternyata “wanita selingkuhan” di internet ini adalah istrinya sendiri. Kontan saja mereka berdua saling menuduh bahwa ia pasangan yang tidak setia. Rencana perkawinanpun batal dan sebaliknya mereka berdua sepakat untuk cerai karena satu sama lain tidak setia!

Kesetiaan memang menjadi barang langka bagi peradaban dunia modern ini. Begitu mudahnya seorang suami berselingkuh dengan wanita lain, sementara itu si istri juga tidak mau kalah dan segera mencari pria idaman lain (PIL). Ujung-ujungnya pun sudah bisa ditebak, mereka memutuskan untuk cerai. Yang menyedihkan, hal yang seperti ini tidak hanya terjadi di kalangan orang yang tidak kenal Tuhan, sebaliknya banyak orang Kristen juga bercerai karena tidak ada lagi kesetiaan.

Semua ketidaksetiaan ini biasanya dipicu oleh pendapat umum yang berkata bahwa rumput tetangga memang selalu terlihat lebih hijau dibandingkan dengan rumput di halaman kita sendiri. Terjebak dengan pandangan yang seperti ini membuat satu sama lain mengorbankan kesetiaan demi mendapatkan sesuatu yang lebih “hijau”, padahal kenyataannya tidak seperti itu.

Perbedaan pendapat memang kerap kali terjadi dan kekurangan-kekurangan pasangan kita memang akan semakin terlihat, tetapi itu bukan berarti melegalkan ketidaksetiaan kita. Justru di saat kita melihat ada kekurangan dan kelemahan di sana sini, tugas kitalah untuk menutup dan menjadi pelengkap baginya. Andaikata setiap orang punya pandangan seperti ini, tentu ketidaksetiaan dan perselingkuhan bisa ditekan sampai titik nol!

Tidak ada yang melegalkan ketidaksetiaan, termasuk kekurangan dan kelemahan pasangan kita


Quotes of Love

You can say I love you a thousand times. But, true love doesnt need to be told.

True love is only true when the feeling is mutual. Yet it need not be expressed in words. When love is true you just feel it.

No one is perfect until you fall in love with them.

Love is the only thing I know that hurts so good.

Love is the knowledge that someone somewhere has a need for you, and you, a need for them.

Love is a decision?

I might have written something similar last year. But I’m sure it would be different.

So far as I can remember, if I wrote an article with the same subject last year, then there will be no question mark at the end. it would be an exclamation mark. Why?? well, simply because I believed so, and I lived by it every single day.

But now… I don’t think that sentence is 100% accurate. I’ve been in a difficult situation before, where I did decide to love someone… but eventually I had to take that decision back. turns out you really need the LOVE, not just a rationale decision.

When it comes to marriage….  do you decide to love? or do you decide to be happy? which one is more important?

2010 Resolution

Usually I make Christmas Resolution each year, and then renew it for Birthday Resolution. But this time I make New Year Resolution instead. I think it is the same thing, just that I was still in the progress of processing my resolution on Christmas day.

I have changed a lot of my resolutions now. instead of pursuing the old stuffs from last year, I made some new ones. I will put the remaining as a note and see if they can be achieved this year.

1. Spiritual growth: read bible everyday and pray constantly

2. Career growth: personal development and salary above ***

3. Physical: more exercise and regular diet

4. Debt free: pay all mortgage / loans

Aside from the 4 points, I need to point out the note as an affirmation. I know I can’t put it as a resolution, because it would be too idealistic to want it in 2010.

Affirmation: I’m married to a single, loyal, caring, catholic, good looking, successful man.

Spend my life with you

never knew such a day could come
And I never knew such a love
Could be inside of one

And I never knew what my life was for
But now that you’re here I know for sure

I never knew till I looked in your eyes
I was incomplete till the day you walked into my life
And I never knew that my heart could feel
So precious and pure
One love so real

Can I just see you every morning when
I open my eyes
Can I just feel your heart beating beside me
Every night
Can we just feel this way together
Till the end of all time
Can I just spend my life with you

Now baby the days and the weeks
And the years will roll by
But nothing will change the love inside
Of you and I

And baby I’ll never find any words
That could explain
Just how much my heart my life
My soul you’ve changed

Preparing for your wedding

Ok, what you need to prepare to have a wedding. The most important part is…. a partner. Yes, I’m not kidding here. You cannot get married all by yourself.

Next step, the venue. I’ve been looking for some places nearby my place. But sometimes, you also need to see a bigger picture here. There are soo many other places out there…. better and cheaper.

==> candidates:

  • KKG (Kelapa Gading Sport Club): top of mind for all gadingers hehe (fully booked for oct-nov 2009)
  • Royalle Ballroom (Sport Mall) : the ceiling is not too high, some bad comments/review, but still in gading area. (fully booked for dec 2009 exept 20 and 27 night) -> should try test food
  • Wisma Antara : location wise = perfect, financially wise = great, the ceiling is high enough, the decor is good, the food (???) haven’t tried the catering mentioned in the package. (fully booked for dec 2009 night and end of Jan 2010)
  • Pulomas Function Hall : pulomas is near kelapa gading, the venue is ok, the food is excellent (only 1 test food, hopefully it represents the real thing)

Next, the gown/bridal… uuh this is difficult… Should I look for the right dress or the prefect make up? or the great package? or all of the above? hehehe…. so many options 🙂

==> review:

  • C : great dress, good make up, the photo is so so but enough
  • J: great photo, lauzy make up, poor dress
  • N: great dress-some, great photo, good make up, but expensive
  • T: great dress-1 only, great photo (associate), so so make up
  • K: good dress, good make up, perfect price, the photo is so so but enough

New update: Maybe I dont need the bridal or the venue, as I won’t seem to be having my marriage in Jakarta. In 1 side:  it’s a relief, no need to worry about the hectic or the budget. on the other side: I won’t have any memories with my friends on my wedding day. (who cares???)

{to be continued}

Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentine’s Day!

I don’t really celebrate Valentine…. well maybe this would be my first time.

I always thought why would people talk about love and romance on this particular day? I mean, we have like 365 days in a year to talk about Love.

But I’m not complaining when my partner asked me to celebrate Valentines Day. It was probably the most romantic day I ever had. My partner turns out to be a romantic kind of guy after all… 🙂 and I would like to thank him for the wonderful day-and-night. Not only on Valentine’s Day, but also on every other day-and-night that we spend together.