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Relationships are the spice of life, but the spice of relationships is
also bound to leave an unpleasant taste in your mouth once in awhile.
Most everyone will experience a failed relationship before meeting the
love of their life, and there’s nothing wrong with that as long as
they’re able to learn from it rather than falling into the same patterns
again and again. Find out if you’re guilty of any of these common
1. Emotionally-Unhealthy Individuals
We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again: To optimize the success of
a happy and healthy relationship, each partner needs to be at their most
complete as an individual. This means each person needs to be
emotionally mature and available, have a strong sense of self and know
what it is that each person wants from the other.
An emotionally-unhealthy individual will look at a relationship as a way
to solve their own problems or as the thing in life that will make them
feel complete. An emotionally-unhealthy individual may be too dependent
because they’re too afraid to be alone and may settle for someone they
know won’t make a good partner.
2. Moving Too Fast
In a world where instant gratification dominates, relationships often
fail because of this exact reason – too many couples are in a rush to
“make it work,” ignoring any waving red flags.
You end up putting too much faith in a relationship because you want to
be in one so bad and you believe a relationship will fix all of your
loneliness or feelings of being incomplete. Excitement about a new
relationship is one thing, but forgetting that a relationship takes a
lot of time to really grow is another.
There is no specific “stage” you should be in at a pre-determined time.
It all depends on the couple.
3. Unrealistic Expectations
Romantic fantasies, unhealthy individuals and putting too much hope into
an already struggling relationship all describe this general common
relationship problem theme – having unrealistic expectations.
Expecting that you can change any bad behaviors your partner has is
unrealistic. Expecting your partner to feel the same way about
everything is unrealistic. When your expectations don’t come to
fruition, you place blame on the other for something that you should
probably blame yourself for.
The only expectations you should have about a relationship is that you
will be treated as well as you treat the other person and that you will
gain friendship, love, respect and support from a healthy relationship.
Expect to plan for the dynamics of a relationship changing over time due
to human nature and external factors, but expect that love will survive
if you work at it.
Everyone has a different style of dealing with money. Some of you are
frugal Franks while others are spendthrifts Susies. Money can be a huge
root of contention in a relationship, especially in a marriage when the
money is mutually shared.
Different money styles aren’t necessarily something that will hurt a
relationship, but the lack of compromise or deception with money can.
Money also can represent a power struggle in a relationship and one of
the partners may feel like their independence is being compromised.
Before opening a joint bank account or getting married, it is essential
that any money differences, issues and fears are discussed, and a
compromise and budget or short-term and long-term goals are agreed upon.
However, what is most essential is to respect what lines have been
drawn, and not to use money as a way to exert control or power over the