Marrying someone you hardly know

Mike, if you read this blog…. Yes this is about you. so sorry you were never mentioned in my blogs before.

 What is Marriage? When I tried googling, I found lots of results:

Wikipedia: Marriage or wedlock (see also Handfasting) is an interpersonal relationship (usually intimate and sexual) with governmental, social, or religious recognition. It is often created as a contract or through civil processes.

In the English common law tradition, from which our legal doctrines and concepts have developed, a marriage was a contract based upon a voluntary private agreement by a man and a woman to become husband and wife.  Marriage was viewed as the basis of the family unit and vital to the preservation of morals and civilization.  Traditionally, the husband had a duty to provide a safe house, pay for necessities such as food and clothing, and live in the house.  The wife’s obligations were maintaining a home, living in the home, having sexual relations with her husband, and rearing the couple’s children.  Today the underlying concept that marriage is a legal contract still remains but due to changes in society the legal obligations are not the same.

What do you think of marrying someone you hardly know? To me, it seems absurd. I cannot even marry my own best friend (I have lots of friends with male gender).

What about arranged marriage?

In order to get married, it is necessary to find a suitable partner. A partner may be found by the person wishing to be married through the process of courtship. Alternatively, two marriage candidates may be matched by a third party, typically with the match finalized only if both candidates approve of the union. This is known as an arranged marriage.

 pragmatic (or ‘arranged’) marriage is made easier by formal procedures of family or group politics. A responsible authority sets up or encourages the marriage; they may, indeed, engage a professional matchmaker to find a suitable spouse for an unmarried person. The authority figure could be parents, family, a religious official, or a group consensus.Though now a rarity in Western countries, arranged marriages in countries such as India are still prevalent today

The Christian views of marriage historically have regarded marriage as ordained by God for the lifelong union of a man and a woman. This foundational principle was first articulated biblically in the Book of Genesis (2:24). Later, Jesus set forth his basic position on marriage by bringing together two important passages from Genesis (1:27; 2:7–25). He pointed to the completion of the creation — “male and female he created them.” Then he described marriage as a relationship, a union, so intimate and real that “the two become one flesh.” As persons, husband and wife are of equal value. In truth, they are one. Finally, Jesus added his emphasis on marriage being God-made and lifelong:

To me….. Marriage is about something else. Something sacred. Once in a lifetime decision because you will spend the rest of your life with that person that you marry. So what if I am a bit conservative…

So I cannot marry someone i hardly know… true, i do online dating. but i dont marry them… in fact i did screening after the dates. Do you know screening? it means I dont answer my phone directly, avoiding certain people….. that is for people below my expectation. usually after the 1st date.


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