Looking for Mr Right part 2

I know it sounds silly to make another page for this one, and then put part deux in the title.

This is the part where I am in a relationship longer than any other relationship I had with others mentioned in the first part.

I met S in a retreat on June 2008. That was 2 months after my break up – well maybe just 1 month, the whole month of May. the hardest break up ever… [you could see one of my posts of break up text messages, that could explain a little bit].

After the retreat, some guys contacted me. But I didnt really see any “seriousness” in them. S was different. the first time he asked me out, he instantly offered to pick me up at my house. Our first date was just dinner in a restaurant nearby. The funny part was our second date…. because it was the same day as my best-ex-colleague wedding. So there we were attending the wedding where most of my ex colleagues came and stunned. Yes they were stunned meeting me… Me, who always come to weddings alone (or with my sister if ever she is in the mood to) – anyway I never have any problem of coming to weddings alone, not a big deal for me…

After the second date, there were no news from him. OK, so I thought I need to forget about him. There might be something that didnt click that night. well… whatever, it would be better this way so nobody will get hurt. Just when I was about to move on, he called.

The third date was an average second date… dinner and a movie. But on the third date he did not come to my house (before and after). he just dropped me off in front of my fence. after the third date… again nothing. {it started to seem like a pattern… what is this?}

The next one was right after my birthday. We had lunch-my treat, and then watched an opera called Konya Konya Lonya. (I think I had written a post for this one…)

The whole month of July, we spent each Saturdays together looking for kost. He was going to move to my neighbourhood, so I helped him searching for a room to rent. {Is this the reason why he is still around? What if it is true that he is just using me to help him get a room. Well, then there is nothing wrong of helping other people}. We also went to Bandung once, he had an event there. But I was sick then… I felt sorry that he cannot enjoy the trip because of me… poor guy. He was very very very nice and caring when I was sick … {Maybe I should stay sick so he would be nice all the time… hehehe}

August was mixed up. I had my ups and downs… I was ready to walk away from this relationship when…… all of a sudden he gave me permission to “take control” of his weekends. {This is weird, the male is supposed to have plans and asked me out, but why is this upside down?? I’m not sure what kind of relationship I’m having}. We had our first karaoke together… hehe good one, it could turn his mood up. {something he did in the karaoke or afterwards might be a good sign} End of August he surprised me by asking me to meet his parents and sister. Was it a sign of progress in this relationship?

We started spending every weekends together in September. Not just weekends, sometimes we had dinner on workdays – just when he had time. Not only I met his parents and sister, but also his brothers. Obviously he met mine too. This was obviously a good sign. I accompanied him going to gather with friends from the retreat. I didnt really feel comfortable, but if it would make him happy, then I should be happy too. One thing still troubled me though, he didnt want anyone in that community to find out that we are together. Why? {1. He probably had other gf in the community, 2. He probably ashamed of me}

Not really much progress in October. We went to lunches, dinners, movies, karaokes, weddings, and again that community. He still insisted that nobody need to know that we are dating. OK, didnt know why but so long as it made him happy, then I would be happy. one time during the European movie screening, he held my hand. but thats about it…. hehehe

November, the first weekend that we spent apart. I went to Singapore with my family and he went back to his hometown to meet his family. Something different about him after that, but going to the good direction. {I should’ve gone to Singapore sooner hehehe}. First time we walked hand in hand in MAG – just for a short while though. End of Nov, he had an accident. Not that kind of accident, nobody got hurt or anything… but more to the trauma or mentally hurt. I just couldnt leave him like that, this was the time when he needed all the moral support he can get.

December, we went camping and Puncak together. The new progress was parents meeting. Hiya, this is a good sign. definitely, maybe.

January, I  made new year resolution for 2009. and I had to make a decision, FAST! I went to his hometown and spent 2 nights there. I had the chance to see and experience his home. Not just the house, but also with the rest of the family. On the train going back to Jakarta, he finally said it. And now we’re together…

February

to be continued .. stay tuned for more, I believe that this one has a happy ending

 

turns out this one doesnt have a happy ending. but surely it has an ending. a very weird one.